As a mother of two children grappling with anxiety and other challenges, I've encountered a myriad of obstacles along the way. Initially, I found myself overwhelmed with trying to figure out what was going on and then there were the unending avenues to pursue to support them- totally overwhelming! I looked into conventional and unconventional, seeking support from friends, schools, therapists, psychiatrists, and counselors. Despite these efforts, the journey remained draining and daunting. This was hands down the most stressful time of my life and sometimes I felt like I was being torn in two. I felt something like the image above…

Then, with the help of my mentor and my community (& God!), I began to truly understand my children. I also began to see how much control I had as a parent, which gave me hope after feeling like life was spiraling out of control for so long. I was learning how incredibly crucial my mindset was to their wellbeing. Were they a problem to be solved? What was my role? What did they need? What was helpful to them or what was not? This was definitely a process, bit by bit, like putting together a puzzle of many pieces. They defied the molds I had envisioned for them, and I had to defy the parenting imagine I had in my head. I continued to lean on my mentor, and I devoured many books that lit the path on my way. If a book gave me one nugget, it was worth it. I was also fortunate enough to work in several elementary schools in an autistic program. I learned so much about human behavior through this experience with those amazing kids. I learned about flexibility and how to meet someone where they are at. How, just because I didn’t understand exactly how something bothered a child (certain sounds, lack of structure, smells etc) didn’t make it any true less true for them. I learned to honor and respect feelings and differences. I learned a lot about patience and how to look at any situation and be able to find good in it. They taught me so much and it helped me in my own heart, mind and life as I was able to use those lessons to better understand, adapt to and accept my kids. I learned you never know exactly what you are looking at with people (including children) without asking, listening and observing. You can’t judge anyone, especially a child, by their surface behavior- you have to look deeper.

During this time, I realized that I had also lost myself in the daily demands of parenting. So many things I loved to do, things that brought me joy, were no longer a part of my life. I began a journey of rediscovering myself- and I discovered the importance of caring for myself. As parents, (especially moms) we often prioritize others at the expense of our own well-being, losing ourselves in the process. I recognized that I had neglected my own self-care for many years, merely surviving each day. I came to realize that this wasn't sustainable, healthy or pleasant! Nor did I want to model this behavior for my children- it wasn’t healthy for ANYONE in my family.

Another huge key to my finding peace was shifting my mindset and being more accepting- for myself, and my kids. This created much more peace and joy in our home. This journey not only made me a better parent (and human, I think!) but also helped me reclaim my identity. (Sidenote: the identity I have now is far superior to my earlier version!)

Imagine prioritizing your own health and happiness alongside that of your family. Though life in this realm is undoubtedly challenging, what if you approached it from a place of abundance rather than depletion? What would more peace and energy feel like? How might investing in yourself enhance your role as a parent, partner, and individual? I'm here to explore these ideas with you and offer support as you embark on your journey toward prioritizing your well-being.

As a wife and mother of two teenagers, as well as a stepmother to an adult daughter, I understand the whirlwind pace of life and the demands it presents. When life is busy and stressful it seems to be the hardest time to give to ourselves- yet, it is when we need it the MOST! I encourage you to carve out time to invest in you. It's the most valuable contribution you can make to both your own life and that of your family. When mom/dad/caregiver are well, everyone benefits! Not to mention, YOU ARE WORTH IT!